On the Show
In this episode of the Sweatpants Chronicles we’re tackling a heavy topic – October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. This is a topic that neither of us actually has any personal experience with but it’s something that we feel like doesn’t get talked about enough. So we decided to have our producer, Kaitlyn Nystul, come on the show to talk about her experience with having an ectopic pregnancy and a miscarriage.
Approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. Many times that statistic is reported as “1 in 4 women,” but “1 in 4 pregnancies” is actually a lot more than 1 in 4 women, since many women will have multiple pregnancies in their lifetime. You can read a great article about why the differentiation in that statistic is so important at donttalkaboutthebaby.com. And this month isn’t just about miscarriage – it’s also about infant loss. About 1 in 20 pregnancies in the U.S. ends in a stillbirth which adds up to about 26,000 each year.
The physical and mental pain from these types of losses is immense and there is still a lot of stigma and shame around pregnancy and infant loss. We found a fantastic article from Time Magazine that discusses the misinformation around miscarriage. For instance, in a survey published in Obstetrics & Gynecology, 76% of people surveyed thought that a stressful event could cause a miscarriage. In reality most miscarriages are caused by genetic problems.
While working on this episode we came across an incredible new PSA from actress Melissa Rauch (she plays Bernadette on The Big Bang Theory). In the video, 15 women share that they have suffered from pregnancy or infant loss. They give insight into the shame and guilt they felt after the fact and let other women who might be suffering know that they are not alone. You can watch the video over at Glamour.com.
One of our favorite statements from that video was that, this is something we need to “drag out of the shadows and into the light.” We hope that through this episode, we can help in even a small way to shed some light on this difficult experience that so many women go through. Kaitlyn mentions in the episode that one of the things that was helpful for her when she was in the midst of her grief, was hearing other women’s experiences. Remember, that no matter how large or small the pain, every women’s experience is valid. And that the world is a better place when we reach out to one another in support.
Here are a few more resources on this topic that we thought were especially helpful:
- Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month
- Coping with Grief
- Facts About Miscarraige
- Causes of Miscarriage
- 11 Things You Didn’t Know About Miscarriage
- The Heartache of Miscarriage from Melissa Rauch
- Pregnancy Loss PSA from Melissa Rauch
- Kaitlyn’s Story
Cassidy: My obsession this week is a new book by Brene Brown called Braving the Wilderness. She just released it a couple of weeks ago. I haven’t read the whole thing but I’m excited to finish it and hear what everybody thinks!
Tristi: My obsession this week is The Festivus Games! And to say obsessed is a really small word for what is really going on with me. The Festivus Games is a Crossfit competition I competed in on Saturday. When we recorded this episode the competition was coming up the next day and I was basically freaking out, haha! But my partner McCall and I ended up taking second place in our division! I shared some thoughts about how the competition went over on our Facebook page.
Kaitlyn: My obsession this week is a podcast called Dirty John! It’s a true crime show done by an LA Times reporter and I devoured the whole thing in about two days. If you were a fan of Serial then Dirty John will be right up your alley.
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